In my own experience, Dom(me)s that can inspire an immediate desire in me to submit are very rare, but such scarcity is counteracted with the absolute gall of the ones that I unfortunately am contacted by. My latest offering of one such Uber-Dom came in the shape of a random FetLife email I received. Here's how that went......
Him: "Your master is lucky... wish i can operate you online...."
Me: "operate" me? I don't know what this means............"
Him: "well its "Owned and operated". When a Dom owns a Sub he operates it. Its to reduce a Sub to
something less then a human being or consider him or her as a machine or utility to be operated.
It needs to be said that this reply genuinely upset and frightened me that this man *could* be serious.... Now don't get me wrong, I am VERY aware of the role I chose in the BDSM lifestyle, but for anybody to assume that I am here for general servitude or to be so broken down as to lose all sense of self and becomes this "machine" is MASSIVELY insulting to me never mind hurtful.
I was stunned after reading that. I honestly didn't know whether to take him seriously or not and so I told my own Master of what was happening and how I felt. I still hadn't replied to the email though. I just didn't know how to.......yet. The next morning however after an early wake-up call I was greeted with:
Him: "so what do u think of the Idea of being operated by a stranger dom?"
(Note: I hadn't yet had a cup of tea, I hadn't been given chance to regain full consciousness but I HAD lost all my patience with him and his type...!!!)
Me: "Firstly, if you had taken a few seconds to read my profile you'd know I am already owned by another. Making
your desire to "operate" me a moot point.
Secondly, I find your idea of 'reducing' a bottom/sub till they are nothing but a machine for your use, LAUGHABLE
at best. Your need for removing consent by damaging someone till they no longer think for themselves is a genuine
concern. Maybe through consent you haven't been able to find a play partner and this is a solution? Maybe...
You will never "operate" me. Nor will you ever have such a chance with any bottom/sub in my network.
I wish you luck in your future endeavours ..... as far away from me as possible.
Never yours, rainy."
Hmmmm I haven't gotten a reply to that one (yet?!). Though I have been advised that such a personality may retaliate with abuse and / or bragging about other bottoms/subs that are only too happy to fall in line. (Scary thought huh...) Part of me got a little fired up by standing up to him, that's the part that is waiting on a reply so I can have another rant LOL
Interesting Note: ALL my Uber-Dom contacts have started with "your Master is lucky / a lucky man..." etc, and while that is a nice compliment to us both, its hardly directed at me is it?? A direct compliment would have gone a lot further.............
So.... I guess this blog is just my way of giving a heads-up to everyone (especially to bottoms / subs) - without us, there would be no Doms. Never let a anyone talk to you or treat you with disrespect or distane on first contact!!! Agreed play-partners however (with bounderies / rules) now that's different.....
So come on - lets out all these fools so no 'innocent' gets pulled into a scary situation with them.
